Why I don’t want to just be happy

Coherent, logical, and consistent.

If someone is coherent, they express their thoughts in a clear and calm way, so that other people can understand what they are saying

Synchronicity is defined as the occurrence of meaningful coincidences that seem to have no cause; that is, the coincidences are acausal.

If you keep noticing romantic themes appearing in your life, you could be experiencing love synchronicity. For example, if you keep noticing couples holding hands, have romantic dreams, or things fall into place easily with someone, you could be experiencing love synchronicity.

In the past few days, I had few challenges.

Although, my little sister, reminded me that there are also victories that I might have overlooked.

I recently experienced the difference between gratitude and happiness – what could it be? They make us feel the same way. Basically, yes.

But if you analyze it, the effect is different.

Gratitude is an act of receiving. When I give you something what do you say? _________

Thank you.

Exactly.

So then people only accept, believe, and surrender to the thoughts equal to their emotional state.

As you elevate your state – there are about 1,200 different chemical reactions that go in your body that begin to restore and repair when you are in a state of gratitude.

So, how can we apply this in our day-to-day life?

Before you go to sleep or before you go to bed – whatever works best for you. (BE-DO-HAVE)

1. List down four thoughts that you are going to stay conscious the whole day (BE)
2. List down four things you want to change on how you speak (DO)
3. List down four things you want to change on how you act (HAVE)

There’s another question that you are to ask yourself. But before I say it, you have to answer what is emotion –

Emotion is evidence of your past. 

Happiness, Sadness, Fear, Disgust, Anger & Surprise. Whatever emotion it connects to what you once felt from your past – this is why most people get stuck in a pattern or cycle.

So my question to you is, What emotions do you live by?

Before getting up from your bed and using your phone. Ask this –

Can you teach your body emotionally – what your future’s going to feel like before it’s made manifest? 

No? Don’t get up until you feel that way. 

Practice that in a few days then see if you can stay in that state.

Then the doors will be open for you – it’s called, Synchronicity. 

Synchronicity is a meaningful coincidence.

Your outside connects within.

Another tip – take time at the end of your day to give thanks for your life.

Sit down close your eyes and begin awareness. The act of opening awareness lessens the stress hormones and creates more coherence in your brain.

What do you get from this?

A greater and stronger foundation.

Remember when I mentioned the difference between happiness and gratitude?

Being happy is an emotion that can easily break while gratitude becomes your state and it becomes you.

I am not saying that gratitude is unbreakable – but once you practice being grateful for everything, you start receiving and valuing everything you feel, touch, and see. 

It will be easier for you to touch the frequency of gratitude when you are done instead of unnaturally going into a state of joy – masking our sadness does not last for too long.

Why?

Well because our brain looks for evidence or facts. When you say “I’m rich”, your brain could say “no” because it will look for facts.

But if you practice gratitude – you don’t have to trick your brain. You become the evidence.

I experience being grateful in the midst of challenges –

I was in a state of fullness and gratitude.

And let me tell you, I was so conscious that it did not affect my night. My outside did not affect anything within. 

I was able to handle myself – which is the best control and secret.

It just shows that in any circumstance once gratefulness is rehearsed. Everything flows.

This is why I am grateful for everything that has happened, is happening, and will happen.

INSECURITY COMES FROM YOUR TEMPORARY SOURCE OF HAPPINESS

Men and Women fall in a pit of insecurities because of their never-ending comparison to other people, lack of self-worth, basing their value over social media or the people in their surroundings,

We were taught that to be confident, we must look beautiful – perfect from head to toe, macho, fit, wearing the most expensive dress, branded shoes, and so on. Those physical and material possessions are not bad to have, it will really make you happy, feel important, like the popular phrase “when you look good, you feel good.” I couldn’t agree more.

But what happens when you are in your bed, in your pajamas, scrolling through your phone, seeing your friend with more likes than your recent post or they achieved something you’ve been wanting to have? Or life just seems so great for them – like they got it all figured out…

What do you feel? Is it a sense of joy? Cause if it is, then good for you! Radiate.

Is it a sense of insecurity? jealousy? Those are human emotions. They are understandable. They are not invalid. But it causes you to feel less of yourself. That’s when your confidence shrinks then your joy decrease. Until you no longer feel good & look good.

We’ve all been there.

“Where do you get your true source of happiness, your source of confidence, your self worth?”

Is it from the number of people who likes your IG pic? The love from your special someone? The validation from your relatives? The aces you get from your exams?

We are humans. We need to feel loved and recognized. 

But where or who do you call to fill that emptiness in your heart?

Because darling, it will be too cruel of us to ask the people we love to fill the emptiness in our hearts. It will be unfair if we keep on giving our burdens to other people expecting them to carry it for us.

So, who or what fills your cup?

As long as you believe in One Supreme Being then the words you are about to read will make sense,

To have an overflowing cup

The source of your happiness is from someone whose love never changes. Who you can rely on. Who wants you, your flaws, and your insecurities. Who forgives all your wrongs, calls you by your name, not by the mistakes you’ve done in the past.

He is the one who will love you every day.

Carry your burden.

Fight your battles for you.

Knows your dreams.

Listens when you cry.

Put your worth in Him. It is hard I know, I’ve been there. When the whole world is telling you otherwise.

Be confident in Him. Not on temporary things. Not on anyone even. Know that He is with you in your journey.

So, give it all to him. Surrender your worries.

We are all on the same boat. But remember He walks on water. So you don’t have anything to worry about.

In this world where your insecurities are drowning you, let Him who walks on water be your source of overflowing and unchanging happiness.

(I wrote this after listening to my niece ate Andee Morados cover the song “Lilim”. She sung it really well! Sometimes, all you need is that angel or that song to lift you up. Sadly, I cannot upload the video here but here’s the song. Enjoy!)

DON’T. EXPECT. PEOPLE. TO. SUPPORT. YOU. PERIOD.

“If you need their emotional support, you don’t have what it takes”

-DL

First of all,

Don’t expect it. THE END.

Have you heard of the story of “the buckets of crabs”?

One time a man was walking along the beach and say another man fishing in the surf with a bait bucket beside him. As he drew closer, he saw that the bait bucket had no lid and had live crabs inside.
“Why don’t you cover your bait bucket so the crabs won’t escape?”, he said.
“You don’t understand.”, the man replied, “If there is one crab in the bucket it would surely crawl out very quickly. However, when there are many crabs in the bucket, if one tries to crawl up the side, the others grab hold of it and pull it back down so that it will share the same fate as the rest of them.”

In life, people will drag you down. They will try and keep you where you are right now.

Simply, they do not want you to get out of the bucket.

Get out of that comfort zone.

Get out of their idea or vision that you have.

Get out of their expectation from you.

They will put you in a box. 

Sadly, this can be our relatives, close friends, employees, teachers and etc,.

Until you forget that THIS. IS. YOUR. LIFE.

You do not need anyone’s approval. You know that.

The moment you keep on seeking people’s validation is the moment you live for them.

The reality is no matter what you do. People will still talk about it.

When you wanna wear that crop top and flaunt your body. Others will love your confidence or criticize you.

When you love your morena skin but then your relatives will tell you “Maitim ka” “Negra kulay mo”

Honey, that is not your problem. It is theirs. That is their reflection.

If you wanna go on a different path and build your company. BISH, GO! DO IT!

Know that: IT IS NOT THEIR JOB TO SUPPORT YOU. 

You won’t automatically get their support.

You earn their support.

Don’t wait for anyone to support you.

You will be your biggest fan. People believe results.

Most people don’t succeed not because of their fear of failure. But because of their fear of success. 

Fear of the unknown.

They know what it is like to struggles but they don’t know what it is like to succeed. 

A sad part is, if you think of your family or friends, most of them have not had a lot of success in their lives. Most of them did not have the opportunity to create their own success.

You have to understand that. When you go on a different path what it means to them is,

They are afraid of losing you. 

That’s why they don’t support you.

because they will notice that you are changing. You are acting, behaving and talking differently. Your mindset is different from the person they used to know before.

You will hear most of the time, “You are not the same person I used to know before.”

Because they are staying exactly where they are used to be, and you are going on a different path.

A path they have been wanting to have but did not do something about it.

Even though, maybe you are doing it for them. They’d still would not completely understand it.

And the moment you reach your success,

Don’t expect them to support you.

DO IT FOR YOURSELF.

By the end of the day, it is still your life.

Right now honey. Do what you gotta do. For you. It will always start with you. You don’t owe anyone anything. (except your parents)

At the end of the day, all you have is you. So, support YOU.

 

Source:

https://guidezone.e-guiding.com/jmstory_crabs.htm

 

Yes, You. Hi!

Maybe you are reading the name of my website wrong, it is not read ‘sy’ like the ‘Gangnam Style‘ singer nor “es es wy“. It is ‘See’. Simply to see a peak of my thoughts.

This is my medium for expressing gratitude to our freedom of speech.

Also, this is where I withdraw all my contemplations.

By the way, if you know my first name, good. If not, figure it out.

People usually spell my first name wrong they usually write ‘ssie’ at the end. And I don’t feel extra special when it is not spelled right often I think I am the only person who has that name, thanks to my fab parents (well yeah I know some people are named that too whatever) but trust me, it won’t be easy for you to find my name on souvenirs nor coca-cola bottles.

A day will come and people won’t spell it wrong anymore. By then, they already know me without me introducing myself.

I hope I will leave a little something in your head after visiting my site. If not, thank you for spending your time in my little world.

Yours truly,

“Darling, life is tough but so are you”

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Why is the ocean blue

She writes like the waves of the ocean

– It has its highs and lows

Whether the moon pleases her or

The sun satisfies her.

She gets to decide

It is not about who comes and go

It is who navigates

The unknown islands,

Experienced its deepest and

Darkest secrets.

Yet stayed.

The world tried to

distinguished between her

Sadness and

Joy

As if they know her.

Threw stones at her,

Drifted into her,

Cried with her,

but she’s like the ocean.

She will live,

It does not matter

Whether the world pleases her or

The people satisfies her

The wave will continue,

As the world wander

After all the storm

She has

been through

They will still question

Why is the ocean blue

STOP BEING A WHINY UNGRATEFUL YOU

“Mamatay na ako” you said that gazillion times ( “I am going to die” you said that gazallion times)

Pero diba kinayanan mo naman? (But you surpassed it, didn’t you?)

*BE ADVISED THAT I WILL BE SPEAKING BOTH TAGALOG & ENGLISH BECAUSE I HAVE THE FREEDOM TO DO SO. SO IF YOU ARE MORE FOCUSED ON MY LANGUAGE RATHER THAN MY CONTENT LEAVE THIS PAGE*

Do you know the most powerful words in the English dictionary?

Let’s eat? Hmmm, pede naman. What else? My treat! That works too. Do you know the two strongest words?

I AM.

Whatever comes after I am becomes what you feel, who you are, and what you are going to do.

You know in school I always here these sentences: (I often say these words too)

I am stressed.

I am tired.

I am upset.

I am not able to finish this.

I am weak.

I am not the best.

I am down.

I am a failure.

I am gonna die

ALL THOSE FEELINGS ARE VALID BUT THE MOMENT YOUR EMOTIONS BECOMES WHO YOU ARE THEN IT STARTS GIVING YOU NEGATIVE RESULTS.

Then you are just becoming part of the problem and that’s the worse problem. Know that you are also the Greatest solution. If you focus on a certain problem, it will expand.

Try this out; think of colour Red then look at your environment. Just keep thinking of colour red. Focus on the colour Red.

What will you see? Syempre! Lahat nang Red because what you focus is what is going to expand.

So if you wake up eveeeryday and always think “Argh! 7 am class I hate waking up early” okay yeah I get you who does, right? But what are you gonna do about it? Does life suck or do you suck?

You know why this is no good for you because it will affect your whole day. You must start your morning good, listen to your favourite song, cook bacon & eggs, wear that gorg dress or cool pants, or whatever. Don’t stalk your ex.

Beat that negativity. The moment you feel it, think of a way to change your perspective.

Although, if one day you are really really down because maybe you fought with your friend, your mom left, your boyfriend cheated on you, or anything.

Then feeel it for a little while. But hey do something about it. Don’t stay upset for too long.

Sadness, anger, frustration, jealousy, doubt, envy and many more. Those are valid emotion but should not be tolerated for a long period of time.

Don’t mask the problem, damn it! Face it. Don’t run from it. Face it.

We are so dependent on our phones that we are becoming afraid of face-to-face talk.

You know the solution for this?

YOU. START BEING GRATEFUL!

Wake up with the hope that you will be with your whole family again,

the strength for your upcoming Math exam,

the courage to confront your friend,

the energy to workout,

Look at things as if it is your last day.

It is so much better to be grateful. Do it with little things. Commit don’t just try.

A happy person is a grateful person.

 

I AM GRATEFUL. That’s better & stronger!

 

know that we are all together on this journey.

 

The One I Took For Granted

I reminisce,

The way you run your fingertips

through my hair that felt divine,

How you rushingly cook Lasagna

through the smell awakens my sleeping soul,

My blanket that tucks me in

at night and sets me off to my dreams,

You get upset when I leave

my dirty clothes on the floor

And you repeatedly tell me,

“I won’t always be here to

pick up after your mess”

To brush my hair at night,

Wake up from your hugs,

Kiss before I leave,

Tuck me in my blanket

when the night gets cold

And now

no one picks up after my mess

I wish I listened more

than I interrupted when you talk,

Brush your hair more

until we both fall asleep

Or watches you when you cook,

Taught myself to wake up on time,

Taught myself to live without you.

I wish I was more of a student than Mrs. Know-it-all

I wasn’t the best

But to you

I was great — good enough.

I thought I’d still be with you by now.

I’m sorry when I was with you I took you for granted.

Will forever be yours,

Your Daughter.

Kid At Heart

Watch a child as she runs in the field of flowers as if the world is nothing but goodness,

Hear them whine or cry.

But they will always smile and act like everything’s fine.

They will forget the fact that you took their favourite lollipop or doll.

Watch as she tells you how colourful the world is,

Just look at her eyes. She has a sparkle that this world will never dim.

Watch as she learns how to walk, to stand, and speak her thoughts.

To watch her is to see happiness that will make you wonder why.

“Has she seen the world’s cruelty?”

But she is no longer a kid.

Yet she laughs as if the world is fair, she loves as if tears never run down her cheeks and she stands with her two feet even though its shaking.

The universe wonders,

I guess when someone is authentic and positive. She will always be looked at like a kid because adults nowadays becomes like the world they live in — cruel and sad.

The chaos of this world resulted her voice to be more sweeter when she speaks of wisdom.

So you may asked,

“Has she seen the world’s cruelty?”

She smiled and replied,

“I did. Trust me. The world’s too damn cruel so I decided to be its greatest enemy — happiness. We need more sunshine in this shitty world.”

Horror

“You know what’s scary? The moment you are ready to love her might be the time that she already had enough. You were so good at pushing her away. Don’t you realize? Sometimes the people we push away are the greatest support system we can have. She chose you because she knows exactly what it feels like to be taken for granted – the world took a blessing like her for granted.

Man, don’t be like the rest of the world.”

Cliché

“Little did we know what we do best repeatedly is: getting back on our feet. Do you remember the day you thought your world was going to end because you saw him with someone, or you forgot to do your homework? But then after few days, you met someone better and the homework you forgot is now just another file on your teacher’s desk. We are humans. We tend to breakdown but we learn to live again. So if you ever feel like your world is falling apart (again) look back on the days you thought it would but you got out of it — alive.

So this may sound cliché, but darling things are going to get better. The harder your yesterday’s battle, the easier you can deal with today’s inconvenience. Trust yourself.”